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Life's a Breeze. And I have some land for sale in The Bahamas.

Posted: Tuesday, December 08, 2009

by Bill Chandler
Hope and Healing Dynamics

Life is difficult. But, do I really need to tell you that? Or should I ask, "What would any of us really expect?"

You know, so many in my line of work preach all things harmony and homeostasis. And not that I find anything wrong with that; I simply question how realistic it is. Not to mention, I would actually propose conflict (and its resolution) is good for us. In the spirit of embracing personal crises, I put together a roster of management strategies to rely upon when the wolf of tough times knocks on your door. And, believe me, these were born in many white-knuckle encounters of my own. I hope you find them helpful

Pause, breathe, and allow the adrenaline rush to subside before reacting ('cause you know you'll regret it later if you don't)
Take into account your history of misinterpretation and overreaction, and where it's gotten you (nowhere)
Assure yourself you'll ultimately survive (you're here to face another zinger, aren't you?)
Embrace the fact that it's okay to be troubled
Understand conflict with resolution has a great upside
Take the whole mess within the context of building something great (you)
Don't ruminate or fret over the issue
Think about whether the issue is really "the issue" (maybe it's another issue's camouflage)
Make a list of no more than three resolution strategies
Only approach the strategy you believe merits top billing (one thing at a time, okay?)
Maintain your current self-care regimen ( grooming, exercise, spirituality, relaxation, etc.)
Simply do the best you can and let the chips fall where they may (seriously, what else can you do but tear yourself up? precisely.)

So what do you think? Is there at least one item (I hope) you can bring to your life right now? Tell us about it, and put it into action, will ya'?

The evolution of Bill's life passion, counseling, is based in his personal battles with panic disorder, depression, and alcoholism. In their midst, he swore if he got out of the mess he was in he'd help others do likewise. Well, he did and it became time to deliver on his commitment.

Bill's approach with clients is grounded in respect, hope, empathy, education, challenge, and the realization of dreams. He doesn't look to tell anyone what to do, rather he talks about goals and how to transition them to reality.

In addition to doing psychiatric emergency work, Bill continues to do a lot of writing and speaking. Bill is a member of the National Alliance on Mental Illness (N.A.M.I.). He resides in the western suburbs of Chicago where he enjoys time with his two teenage children.

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» left by Brianna Popsickle
2 years 164 days ago.

It amazes me how articles on SearchWarp can find you at just the right time. Like your article did today. Thank you Bill.

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» left by Bill Chandler 2 years 164 days ago.
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Well, thanks for the kind words, Brianna. I'm so glad our timing clicked. Bill

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